5 Tips to be a Quality Single: Disregard Negative Comments
Not having a partner shouldn't make you feel down. Being single is not something to be ashamed of, even though some people may mock you about it. You simply have a different perspective on romance, and it doesn't sync up with their views on having or not having a partner.
For some, reaching a certain age may feel like it's time to have a partner. You might think you shouldn’t always go places alone or only hang out with friends. But if being single actually makes you feel more comfortable, why not?
Being single now doesn’t mean you'll never have a partner. Instead of dwelling on this status and the negative comments from others, it's better to build your own quality. Check if you already possess these five aspects:
1. Positive Self-Concept
Self-concept greatly influences your self-confidence. Having a negative self-concept just because you don’t have a partner when almost all of your friends do will make you insecure. There's a thought that you're not attractive, not interesting, not good-looking, and so on, compared to those who already have partners.
Instead of improving yourself, a negative self-concept makes you look down on yourself. It could even lead to self-hatred. Therefore, define yourself as positively as possible without going beyond reality.
You no longer link your lack of a partner to your attractiveness. You're still a great person, with good qualities and abilities that allow you to work and handle various life issues. You're not any less beautiful or handsome compared to friends who already have partners.
Even if someone likes to mock you and criticize various things about you, silently respond in the opposite manner. If they say you're inadequate, at least tell yourself, if not them, that you're amazing. If you're braver, say this directly to the person mocking you so they rethink before doing the same thing again.
2. Supportive of Others' Relationships
Being single doesn't mean you should have a negative attitude towards other people's relationships. Otherwise, you'll appear cynical and might be suspected of being envious of friends who have partners. Be supportive of anyone’s relationship, especially friends or family.
Don’t say bad things about their relationships. Be happy for them when they're happy and empathize when they face problems. If a friend, neighbor, or family member is getting married, make sure you don’t avoid going.
Be there to offer support and prayers for the happy couple. Don’t be ashamed to attend alone if your name is listed on the invitation. If you don’t attend, your friend's happiness might diminish and they might think you don’t support their relationship.
3. Remain Productive
Not having a partner to take you out, treat you, or buy you various gifts doesn't mean you can be lazy at work. Don’t waste the abundance of free time, especially on weekends. Whether you have a partner or not, maintain your productivity.
Maintaining productivity is key to building a bright future and optimizing your abilities. If you get used to being lazy, claiming you don’t have responsibility for others, you’re the one who loses. As a single person, you clearly become less attractive to the opposite sex.
Later on, you might regret wasting your youth, which should have been utilized as best as possible. Boost your enthusiasm at work and engage in beneficial activities. Even though finding a partner isn’t your priority at the moment, your life won't feel incomplete due to your diverse and important busyness.
4. Believe You Can Build a Good Romantic Relationship
Careful, being single for a long time might reduce your confidence in the possibility of having a relationship in the future. There’s a fear that you, who aren’t used to dating, might fail to make a partner happy. Maybe you seem too unapproachable to them, unaware of their feelings, and so on.
Even if you've never dated before, don’t worry too much about it. Your match will certainly be the most suitable person for you, so you don’t need to make too much effort to understand each other. Your compatibility will be felt right from the start of the relationship.
You can learn fairly quickly to become a good partner for them. Likewise, they won’t demand too much from you. As long as you’re not too selfish, building a relationship with a partner will be easily done.
5. Have Social Concerns
Just because you’re still single, it doesn’t mean you can only think about yourself and have no social concerns. Caring for others and having larger interests in life is a primary attitude. Train and consistently apply it from an early stage.
As an individual, your attractiveness rises significantly with your care for those around you. Do as much as you can for them and don’t be afraid of losing. Always allocate a portion of your income for social activities or perform other kindnesses for others, such as donating blood regularly.
Such social work greatly helps those in need on one side. On the other hand, it also develops your capacity. You’ll get used to pushing yourself to become a more useful person for many others.
The label of a pitiful single shouldn't stick to you. You must be a quality and classy single. Stay away from things that aren’t beneficial for your future and self-development. Do this consistently, not just to attract the opposite sex, but because you love yourself.